Drove home in the dark this week for the first time this fall and felt that old familiar drop. Not sadness exactly, more like someone turned the lights down 10 percent on everything. It happens to me every year around now, and every year it takes me a few weeks to admit it’s happening.
The days are getting short fast. Dark when a lot of us leave for work, dark again before dinner, and the clocks roll back in a couple weeks to make the evenings shorter still. For a lot of people, men very much included, the mood dips right along with the light. It’s more common than we let on, and most men never say a word about it.
This is where the self-sufficiency kicks in. We tell ourselves it’s just the season, just a slump, nothing worth mentioning, and we white-knuckle toward spring with the jaw set. The trouble is that a quiet dip you refuse to name can deepen into something that actually needs help, and the guys most likely to tough it out alone are the last ones to say anything.
So this is the Friday debrief, two honest questions as the dark comes in.
How am I doing as the light drops, if I answer past the automatic “fine”?
Who in my life goes quiet this time of year, and when did I last check on them instead of assuming they’re okay?
There’s no shame in the dip. It comes for strong people every single year. The move is to name it early, get more light and more sleep where you can, and let one other human know the season has landed on you. If it goes deeper than a dip, talk to someone who does this for a living. Carrying it silently has never once made the winter shorter.
So who are you going to be honest with this weekend about how the season’s hitting you?
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