Getting and staying mindful in 2023 (#6 of 52 - Mindfulness and... SEX?!)

Feb 03, 2023

Happier, Healthier, and More Stress Free in 2023!

#6 of 52 - Mindfulness and er… uh… shhhhh… sex!!

Hello! Jon Macaskill here again, mindfulness coach from the Men Talking Mindfulness podcast; The Deliberate Discomfort Challenge; and Macaskill Consulting/Keynote Speaking. This is the 6th of 52 weekly Mindfully Happy Newsletters from us to help you become happier, healthier, and more stress free in 2023!

Last week, we discussed mindfulness for children. The week prior to that, we discussed mindfulness and parenting. This week, we are talking about mindfulness and the process that makes both… it MAKES parents and MAKES children… yep, sex! (Please don’t hit that unsubscribe button just yet - hear me out! Also, please note, I did make sure to NOT include a picture of this week’s topic hahaha!)

So, sex, as uncomfortable as it can be to talk about (and to write about!!), is an important aspect of the human experience, and mindfulness can enhance the physical and emotional pleasure of sexual experiences. Being present and fully engaged in the moment can help to increase intimacy and connection with a partner, and can also lead to greater self-awareness and self-acceptance.

One way to bring mindfulness “into the bedroom” is to focus on the sensations in your body. Take time to notice the sensation of touch, the feeling of pleasure, and the movement of energy in your body. Paying attention to these sensations can help to increase the intensity of the physical pleasure of sex.

Another way to bring mindfulness to sex is to focus on the emotional and mental aspects of the experience. Notice the feelings that come up during sexual activity, such as excitement, pleasure, or vulnerability. Try to acknowledge and accept these feelings without judgment, and allow them to be present without becoming overwhelmed by them.

Mindfulness can also help to improve communication with your partner during sexual experiences. By being present and fully engaged in the moment, you can more easily express your desires and boundaries, and respond to your partner's needs and desires. This can lead to a deeper sense of intimacy and connection.

It is also important to remember that mindfulness is not just about having the perfect sexual experience. Sometimes, things may not go as planned, and that's okay. Mindfulness helps us to be more accepting of things as they are, and to let go of judgment and expectations.

Overall, mindfulness can bring a deeper level of pleasure and connection to sexual experiences, and can also help to improve communication and intimacy with partners. Take time to practice mindfulness before, during, and after sexual activity; and notice the ways in which it enhances your experiences.

As always, thank you for reading and we will see you next week for another installment of our mindfulness newsletter.

This week I’ve added:

My ebook on mindfulness for beginners.
Some information on our upcoming Mindfulness Adventure Retreat (sign up before March 18th and receive $200 off)
A link to the Men Talking Mindfulness podcast episode on Mindfulness and Sex

Please let me know if you’ve got any questions or anything you’d like to see incorporated into future newsletters. Have a wonderful week!

With utmost respect and gratitude,

Jon

Mindfulness for Beginners

The Mindfulness Adventure Retreat

18-21 May in Claverack, NY at the beautiful Won Dharma Center

Learn more here!

Watch and Listen to Experiences of Previous Retreat Attendees here!

Men Talking Mindfulness Episode “Mindfulness and Sex with Sex Therapist Courtney Boyer”

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